I was trying to explain to my family why I am not waiting until I have all the money saved again. I know they mean well, but sometimes I just wish they'd say "okay, sounds great" instead of questioning me every time I tell them what I'm doing.
Since I had to use my adoption nest egg last year to pay my mortgage, I'm in a bit of a bind financially to adopt now. SO I was contemplating cashing out a 401k or 403b account. I know that this isn't the smartest idea from a long-term perspective, but I'd have the money when it's needed.
When asked why I'd consider such a thing, I had to explain the age situation. When a parent is older than 45, most countries prefer not to place an infant with that parent. As examples - since I'm a lucky single woman, I'm limited to 5 yo or older in Peru and 7 yo or older in Colombia.
Just another reason to dread a birthday - LOL
Come on, Guatemala! Give me some good news already!
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Oh Lucinda, I know what you mean about the money situation. I adopted both gurlz without having all the money in place, sitting in the bank. Bank of America has signature loans and I told them that it was for adopting internationally, there was no problem. I had read somewhere that BofAm was kind to adopting parents. I will be paying the loan off for #2 for a few years, but she is so worth it.
I HATE that us single mothers, and older models, are forced to adopt older children. I agree that ALL children need a home, no matter what. But I too wanted to be able to really bond with a small one and to have the "adventure" of diapers, little sleep, silly Elmo toys and songs, etc. It is fun. And expensive. But oh so worth it.
I will continue to pray that you are led to your child soon, AND that Guatemala opens up again.
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